Last night was the premiere of the Bachelorette with Andi Dorfman and her 25 contestants. Among them was Eric Hill, who died from injuries sustained during a paragliding accident (unrelated to the show – he’d already been eliminated). There is talk on the internet of how insensitive it would be for ABC to show Eric and how painful it would be for his family.
I’ve lost family members, including a brother. I know the pain that comes with it and feel much differently about the situation. I give ABC a first impression rose for leaving him in the show.
If his passing is still too raw and the family doesn’t feel they can’t deal with seeing him on the show just yet, they won’t. I suspect some of them will record it to watch at a later date, and when they do, they’ll remember the son/brother/nephew/grandson they loved and will cherish his image and celebrate a vibrant life.
I came to that conclusion because there are many times I wish I had a tape or audio recording of my mother, my grandmother, my dad. I saved the last voice mail I received from my brother and have kept it in my phone for over three years, even though he was sharing bad news relating to his worsening health problems. Does it tear my heart out to hear his voice? Oh, yeah. Sometimes it’s almost unbearably painful, but I don’t have it in me to hit that delete button. Maybe someday I’ll feel differently, but for now it soothes something inside me more than it rips away.